10 Ways You Can Build Your Marriage Daily
Have you been having a difficult time finding ways to build your marriage? It’s no surprise to anyone that life has somehow gotten the best of us and here we are struggling to tend to our marriage among many other things. If you have kids, I’m sure that just adds to the pressure of it all.
I’ve been there! It’s stressful, friend, but I am here to tell you that it’s probably not as hard as you may think to build your marriage daily.
I’ve collected just a few of my favorite ways that my husband and I build our marriage everyday. I hope it can help you as much as it has helped us!
10 Ways You Can Build Your Marriage Daily
1 YouVersion Bible plans with friends
This is my favorite – hence, the top of the list. If you download the YouVersion App, you can search for different types of marriage devotionals.
Once you find one that you like, you can start the plan and the app will ask you if you want to do it by yourself or with friends.
You can invite your spouse and at the end of the devotional each day, send notes on what you feel God is speaking to you!
It is seriously so nice and I love what it does for me and my husband. It creates so much conversation with one another and also provides incredible accountability on getting in the Word each day.
2 Kiss in the morning
When you go out of your way in the morning to find your spouse and kiss them, you are telling them your connection with them is a priority to you. It’s easy to get distracted in the morning with preparing for work and getting the kids ready. It takes intention. When you are intentional about this, your spouse will notice.
Mornings are chaotic in our home. So when my husband comes and finds me just to kiss me, everything stops for that moment. Not Hollywood-fantasy status where everything around us slows down. That’s unrealistic. We have to literally stop what we are doing for a half-second, kiss, and know that our partner was thinking of us in that moment.
3 Give specific compliments
When you give compliments to your spouse on things that are within their control, it will feed their soul. For example, when we compliment how smart they are rather than how hard they work (their effort) we are really complimenting something that is “fixed” rather than something they “do.”
If we tell them they are handsome/pretty rather than complimenting a unique virtue such as patience and kindness, this is telling our spouse that what they look like makes us love them more or less. Again, its fixed, and out of their control. Every spouse likes to feel that their partner is attracted to them, that’s fine, just don’t make this your only compliment.
There are incredible studies on this topic, even for children!
Remember the good ol’ dating days when you were constantly flirting with your partner? It was bliss right? Let’s start doing that again!
I don’t know why we stop knowing how to flirt when we get married, but it’s actually super easy! Tease your spouse. Send them a flirty text message while they are at work. Have secretive physical contact in front of your kids, heck, have obvious physical contact in front of your kids!
5 Pray for them
Again with the intentionality! This one is easy to let slip, but in all honesty, it’s the most important. When we take time to pray for our spouses we are actually opening up to God and allowing Him to show us areas in ourselves, our spouse, and our marriage that need more of Christ.
Marriage is a huge battlefield and we are the soldiers. Most days we show up unarmed to the fight and forget where our source of strength comes from. When you lift up your spouse to God, it releases an insane amount of pressure for both of you.
6 Find a way to serve them
Isn’t it nice to be served every once in a while? Simple acts of servant-hood can go such a long way in your marriage. This isn’t something that comes naturally to me, so to be honest, I have to plan it…
Some of the things I like to do are things I KNOW my spouse doesn’t like having to do. Cleaning up his home office, changing the dirty diaper, making him coffee in the morning, making the bed, etc. And he does the same for me! Doing dishes, changing the dirty diaper, matching socks (Seriously, why?!), bringing me cereal in bed (pregnancy problems), etc.
Make a list of things you know your spouse dislikes doing, and choose a couple to do for them.
7 Be playful
Every marriage should have sense of humor as a core value #justsayin. Life is so serious and overwhelming sometimes, so when you have a spouse who can laugh it out with you, it makes it so much easier.
Laughter has even showed incredible health benefits in multiple studies! Tease your spouse, make jokes, be teased, and laugh at yourself. just don’t go as far as to make your spouse the subject of your jokes. There is a difference between being playful and being hurtful.
9 Let the bedroom be for bedroom related things
A huge issue with being married this day in age is that distractions are all around us. The habits you create in a room will trick your mind into what you DO in that room. So if you are constantly using the bedroom to binge netflix, you more than likely will have a difficult time getting in the mood for anything else.
This study shows how much TV in the bedroom can kill the mood. In order to be intimate, emotionally or physically, you have to be able to interact with that person.
This also goes for cell phones, tablets, and laptops; Although I’m sure you already knew that. You will have to decide just how far you want to go with this. I recommend keeping TV time in the living room and going to the bedroom together when you are done.
10 Ask & Tell
Communication is key, ammiright? We all give and receive love in different ways so it can be super helpful when we simply ask our spouse how we can love them better.
This is a two way street, so make sure you’re also letting your spouse know how they are doing and what you like.
This doesn’t have to be an uncomfortable conversation and it’s nothing to get your feelings hurt over. It’s healthy to give and receive feedback so that your marriage can continue to prosper.
Keep in mind, marriage takes intention, and how you go about building your marriage is going to be unique to you and your relationship. There are so many different ways you and your spouse can build your marriage daily.
What are some of the ways you like to build your marriage daily?